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Wednesday, March 28, 2012

Diet and Weight Loss Tips

Calories per Hour offers the following tips to help you lose weight to look better, feel better, and live a healthier life. These tips are short and sweet and are intended as a starting point or quick reference for individuals seeking to lose weight by using the resources offered on Calories per Hour. Read the related tutorial topics to learn more about the topics discussed in these weight loss tips
  1. How Did I Get Here?Do you simply need help learning how to eat better? Probably. But if you eat poorly as a result of emotional, mental, or spiritual problems, they may have to be addressed before you can make any real progress with weight loss.
    Even people who don't feel they have an eating disorder often turn to food for comfort. To learn to eat well and exercise regularly, you may also have to learn to handle the problems life throws at you without turning away from healthy eating and exercise.
    Be particularly careful about all-or-nothing thinking. A common tendency when failing to stay on a diet is to abandon it altogether. Instead, try to learn from your mistakes and do better in the future.
    Related Tutorial Topic: Eating Disorders
  2. Are You Ready to Diet? Again?Diets entice us with promises of quick weight loss. But focusing on quick weight loss can lead to unhealthy eating and only short term success.
    While most diets produce quick weight loss at the outset, they often cause your metabolism to slow. The result is that you have to eat less and less to keep losing weight. You quickly become discouraged, give up, and start eating like you used to. But now, with a slower metabolism, you regain all the weight you lost, and more.
    Focus instead on improving your health, and you will become slim and healthy.
    Related Tutorial Topic: Selecting a Diet Plan
  3. Take Control of What You EatThere are few things that we have complete control over, but what we put in our mouths is one of them. We don't have to lose control in a restaurant or a friend's home, and we don't have to eat everything that's put in front of us.
    Consider this: We love fat because it carries flavor, and restaurants aren't as interested in whether we'll be around in 30 years as whether we'll be back next week. And what about our friends?
  4. Eat Frequently, and Eat SlowlyIt is important to understand what happens when you skip a meal or go on a crash diet. When you skip a meal your metabolism slows to conserve your energy. And when you lose weight too quickly for a few days, your body thinks it is threatened with starvation and goes into survival mode. It fights to conserve your fat stores, and any weight loss comes mostly from water and muscle.
    Never skip a meal, especially breakfast, and eat healthy snacks between meals. Eating frequently prevents hunger pangs and the binges that follow, provides consistent energy, and may be the single most effective way to maintain metabolism efficiency.
    Eating slowly gives our bodies time to tell us they are full before we've eaten more than we need.
    Related Tutorial Topic: Raise Your Metabolism and Burn More Calories
  5. Eat More Fruits, Vegetables and Whole GrainsPeople who eat healthy, mostly unprocessed foods, including fruit, vegetables, whole grains, legumes, and limited amounts of lean animal protein, often find that they can eat as much as they want without gaining weight. If they are switching from a diet containing lots of processed foods, they find that they can eat more yet consume fewer calories -- and they lose weight.
    Historically, the Chinese ate mostly rice and vegetables with a little lean meat for protein and flavor, nothing like the American Chinese restaurant dishes of deep fried sweet and sour pork. A step back to more natural foods would improve our health and waistlines.
    Related Tutorial Topic: Why Healthy Food Makes You Slim
  6. Eat More FiberFiber makes us feel full sooner and stays in our stomach longer than other substances we eat, slowing down our rate of digestion and keeping us feeling full longer. Due to its greater fiber content, a single serving of whole grain bread can be more filling than two servings of white bread. Fiber also moves fat through our digestive system faster so that less of it is absorbed.
    Refined grains like white rice and those used to make white bread and sugary breakfast cereals have had most of their fiber and nutrients stripped away. They turn into blood sugar (glucose) so fast that, like sugar itself, they can cause a spike in our insulin level. This tells our body that plenty of energy is readily available and that it should stop burning fat and start storing it.
    Eating foods with plenty of fiber will help keep our blood sugar at a more consistent level.
    Related Tutorial Topic: How Fiber Helps You Lose Weight
  7. Cut Down on SugarBe careful about sugar in coffee and soda pop. It can add up quickly, and these drinks aren't filling.
    Watch for "hidden" sugar in processed foods like bread, ketchup, salad dressing, canned fruit, applesauce, peanut butter, and soups. And be careful with "fat-free" products. Sugar is often used to replace the flavor that is lost when the fat is removed. Fat-free does not mean calorie-free.
    The greater concern with the insulin spike (above) is not that it tells our body to start storing fat. Whatever we eat and don't burn up eventually gets turned into fat anyway.
    The greater concern is that the insulin spike is followed by a drop in insulin level that leaves us feeling tired and hungry and wanting to eat more. The unfortunate result of this scenario is that it makes us want to eat something else with a high sugar content. When we do, we start the cycle all over again.
    Regulating your blood sugar level is the most effective way to maintain your fat-burning capacity.
    Related Tutorial Topic: How Blood Sugar Levels Affect Weight Loss
  8. Too Much of a Bad ThingFoods like cheese stand out as among the most fat-laden, with a great number of calories coming from fat. But as important as it is to select the healthiest foods, it is also important to consider how they are prepared.
    Fried foods, especially deep-fried, contain a great amount of fat. While chicken and fish are usually leaner than beef or pork, they can contain more fat when they are fried. Look at how the number of grams of fat in a chicken breast changes depending on how it is cooked:

    Cooking MethodFat
    Meat Only, Roasted3.1
    Meat Only, Fried4.1
    Meat and Skin, Batter Fried18.5
    "Fried food? All I eat is salad and I still can't lose weight!"
    Be careful with salad dressings, mayonnaise, and other condiments that are high in fat content. They greatly increase the calorie count and can negate the healthy aspects of a meal. Replace mayonnaise-based condiments with fat-free alternatives like fat-free yogurt, mustard, ketchup and barbecue sauce.
    And remember, a gram of fat contains more than twice as many calories as a gram of protein or carbohydrate.
    Related Tutorial Topic: Calories in Protein, Fat and Carbohydrates
  9. Too Little of a Good ThingBut don't try to eliminate fat altogether, as dietary fat is necessary to maintain a healthy body. It is a vital component for building body tissue and cells, and it aids in the absorption of some vitamins and other nutrients. Many people eat too much of the bad fats, but also eat too little of the good fats required for optimal health.
    Related Tutorial Topic: Good Fats and Bad Fats
  10. Exercise RegularlyPeople who exercise regularly not only lose weight faster, they are more successful at keeping it off. Exercise makes it possible to create a calorie deficit and lose weight without starving your body and slowing your metabolism.
    At home, at the gym, or playing sports, participate in both aerobic and strength building activities on a regular basis. Not only does the exercise itself burn calories, but your body will continue to burn calories at a higher rate even after you're done exercising.
    If walking is all you can do, then walk because it's great for you. But muscle burns more calories than fat, so put on a little muscle if you can and you will burn more calories just sitting there... looking good.
    But don't sit too long. The human body is good at adapting. If you dig ditches without gloves, you will develop calluses to protect your hands. If you sit too long, you will develop extra padding to keep you comfortable!
    Related Tutorial Topic: Why Exercise Is Important for Weight Loss
  11. Take It EasyUnless you are excited to be following a very specific diet and exercise plan, do not try and change too much too fast. If you have been eating poorly and not exercising, both your body and your mind will have a lot of adjusting to do.
    All the sugar and fat were actually quite enjoyable, and sitting on the couch didn't feel too bad, either. If you try and change everything too quickly the odds are greater that you will feel bad, get discouraged, and give up. So be patient.
    A time will come when a healthy snack will taste as good as the junk food you felt bad about eating, and you will look forward to your regular exercise.
  12. Begin NowYou can achieve your goals, but it won't likely happen as a result of the next fad diet. Or the one after that.
    Learning to eat well and exercise is the only solution to long term weight loss.
    Begin Here: Diet and Weight Loss Tutorial

Tuesday, March 27, 2012

Tentang Wanita.

Wanita - Bila sebut sahaja wanita, orang akan menggambarkan seorang yang berhati lembut, halus dan seorang yang lemah. Tapi apa yang orang tidak tahu ialah - kami mungkin seorang yang lemah, tapi sebenarnya kami seorang yang kuat juga.

Kami selalu pendam perasaan di dalam hati. Kami selalu berfikir tentang orang yang kami sayang sebelum dan selepas tidur. Kami terlalu ambil berat tentang orang yang kami sayang. Kami ketepikan segalanya, dan utamakan orang yang kami sayang lebih dari yang lain.
Walaupun banyak kasih sayang di dalam hati kami, tapi dengan satu langkah sahaja, kasih sayang tu boleh berubah ke arah kebencian.

Tapi itu jarang terjadi. Kami; wanita selalu 'kalah' dengan kasih sayang yang kami ada untuk orang yang kami sayang itu. Walau teruk/jahat mana pun perangai orang yang kami sayang, kami tetap akan sayang.
Tapi apa yang kami bingung , bagaimana seorang lelaki boleh memainkan perasaan seorang wanita yang sangat halus? Bagaimana seorang lelaki boleh memusnahkan impian seorang wanita dengan kata-kata? Bagaimana seorang lelaki boleh meninggalkan seorang wanita kebingungan dengan aksi-aksi mereka? Bagaimana seorang lelaki boleh beranggapan perasaan wanita tidak penting? 

Aku sesungguhnya pelik bagaimana semua ini boleh berlaku. Tapi itu lah yang terjadi kebelakangan ini di dunia yang fana ini. Bila hati dan perasaan wanita akan mula di ambil berat oleh lelaki? Mungkin kami tidak akan beritahu yang kami sedih, tapi tak boleh ke kalian meluangkan masa kalian dan bertanya kepada kami bagaimana hari-hari kami?

Mungkin sesetengah lelaki akan berkata - Wanita ni rumit. Suka buat keputusan mendadak. Berfikir terlalu banyak. Aku mengaku, itu benar. Tapi pernahkah kalian berfikir sejenak bahawasanya kalian juga sangat rumit? Lelaki selalu tidak boleh membuat keputusan untuk hati mereka sendiri. Hari ini mungkin mereka sayang, esok mungkin perasaan itu sudah tiada lagi. Mengapa berubah secara mendadak?

Percaya lah, apabila seorang wanita berkata - "I nak you sorang je" ; dia benar-benar memaksudkannya. Dia telah melihat anda di masa depannya. Namun, kalian - lelaki jangan cepat terpedaya dengan kata-kata itu. Bukan lah berkata kami menipu anda. Tapi ia nya boleh berubah jikalau kalian mula mengambil kesempatan terhadap kami dengan melayan kami seperti tidak berperasaan hanya kerana kalian tahu kami akan selalu menunggu anda.

Sejauh mana pun seorang wanita itu sayangkan seorang lelaki, akan muncul jua satu hari nanti wanita itu akan berkata "Cukup lah." kerana sikap anda yang endah tak endah itu. Semua orang boleh berkata mereka sayang anda, tetapi bukan semua orang boleh menunggu anda. Kalau kalian dah jumpa wanita yang betul-betul kalian sayang, jaga lah perasaan mereka. Kerana wanita suka disayangi dan rasa diperlukan.

Wanita seperti aku; yang gemar memendam perasaan seorang diri, selalu diambil kesempatan oleh orang. Kerana kurang menunjukkan perasaan yang sebenar, mereka selalu fikir ia nya okay untuk melukakan hati kami. Kerana kami hanya akan mendiamkan diri. Tapi wanita seperti aku ini bukan lah robot. Kami mempunyai hati dan perasaan juga. Akan tiba juga harinya apabila kami akan pergi.

Wanita mungkin adalah queen of tears, tetapi hati kami penuh dengan kasih sayang. Tolong lah jaga perasaan kami. Jangan lah anda membiarkan kami terkontang-kanting seorang diri dengan sikap anda yang kerap berubah itu. Sejauh mana pun kami sayang kepada anda, hati kami pasti akan letih jua satu hari nanti.

Selagi masih tersemat kasih sayang di hati kami, hargai lah kami. Kerana bila wanita dah buat keputusan untuk pergi dari anda, tiada apa lagi yang boleh menghalang kami dari pergi.

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Thursday, March 22, 2012

Top 9 Healthy Lifestyle Tips

Living a healthy lifestyle doesn't have to be hard. It just takes the motivation to change our bad habits into good, healthy ones. Below is a list of 10 healthy lifestyle tips to get you started. Once you start, you can come up with more healthy choices that work for you.

o The first thing is to eat a balanced diet. Eat more fruits and vegetables and get rid of the high sugar, processed foods. Along with eating better is getting the right nutrients in the system.

o So the second thing is to take vitamins and minerals to help your body work properly.

o The third tip is to quit all those nasty unhealthy habits. Smoking, drinking, drugs, chewing tobacco, whatever your vice may be quit now. You are in charge of your health and living a healthier lifestyle means getting rid of the things that may kill you.

o The fourth thing to do is exercise. Exercise makes you feel good and can motivate you to get other things done as well.

o Along with exercise, number five is making sure you see a doctor each year for an annual physical. This is more important in women, but men should be seeing a doctor every 2-3 years to make sure there are no big health concerns.

o The sixth is to surround yourself with a strong support network, or a group of people who will be there for you and participate in a healthy lifestyle as well.

o Your family and friends can help you with the seventh tip, have fun and enjoy life.

o Eighth tip is to create a good balance between work and play.

o The final two tips are to accept yourself for the unique individual you are and love what you do. If you can accept yourself, the good and the bad, it will show in all you do. Your job is something you will be doing for at least the next 20 years, so you should love it. If you don't keep looking until you find something you do love.

Start with those healthy lifestyle choices and see how you feel in the next few weeks. You should feel more energized, motivated, and positive.

Tuesday, March 20, 2012

9 Tips in Life that Lead to Happiness

Are you truly happy? Do you even know what it means to be happy and what it takes to achieve happiness? These are important questions for anyone who is seeking happiness to ask themselves. I live my life to maintain my own happiness while trying my best to not cause unhappiness to anyone else. If you want to be happy you need to understand that you can be happy and that you should be happy. Many people make the mistake of believing that they don’t deserve happiness and accept their unhappy state as their destiny. The truth of the matter is that happiness, like anything else in life, needs to be nurtured. The following are a few tips that I follow to create happiness in my life.

  1. Understand what it is that will make you happy. Everyone has unique requirements for attaining happiness and what makes one person happy may be very different from what makes someone else happy. Revel in your individuality and do not worry about whether or not your desires are comparable to those of your peers.
  2. Make a plan for attaining goals that you believe will make you happy. Your mood will very likely increase as your pursue your goal because you will feel better about yourself for going after something you value.
  3. Surround yourself with happy people. It is easy to begin to think negatively when you are surrounded by people who think that way. Conversely, if you are around people who are happy their emotional state will be infectious.
  4. When something goes wrong try to figure out a solution instead of wallowing in self pity. Truly happy people don’t allow set backs to affect their mood because they know that with a little thought they can turn the circumstances back to their favor.
  5. Spend a few minutes each day thinking about the things that make you happy. These few minutes will give you the opportunity to focus on the positive things in your life and will lead you to continued happiness.
  6. It’s also important to take some time each day to do something nice for yourself. Whether you treat yourself to lunch, take a long, relaxing bath or simply spend a few extra minutes on your appearance you will be subconsciously putting yourself in a better mood.
  7. Finding the humor in situations can also lead to happiness. While there are times that require you to be serious, when it is appropriate, find a way to make light of a situation that would otherwise make you unhappy.
  8. Maintaining your health is another way to achieve happiness. Being overweight or not eating nutritious foods can have a negative effect on your mood. Additionally, exercise has been known to release endorphins that give you a feeling of happiness.
  9. Finally, it is important to understand that you deserve happiness. Those who believe that they are not worthy of happiness may subconsciously sabotage their efforts to achieve happiness. If necessary, tell yourself each day that you deserve to be happy and remind yourself what steps you will take to achieve the happiness you desire.
Happiness is hard to define but most people are aware of whether they are happy or not. Many people believe that happiness is a form of luck and that some people are destined to be happy while others are destined to be unhappy. I try to incorporate the tips above into my life and have had great success in achieving happiness. The tips in this article are small but meaningful steps that you can take each day to lead you to true happiness

Saturday, March 17, 2012

4 tanda wanita jatuh cinta

Lebih 70% wanita bersetuju mereka tidak akan meluahkan perasaan sebaliknya hanya menunjukkan tanda mereka sebenarnya telah jatuh cinta. Wanita mempunyai cara yang tersendiri untuk memberitahu seseorang lelaki mengenai perasaan mereka. Ianya terpulang kepada lelaki tersebut untuk memahaminya atau mungkin mereka tidak akan berjaya mengesannya. Didalam artikel ini, t5 akan menerangkan mengenai 4 tanda sekiranya wanita telah jatuh cinta.

Pandangan mata- Pandangan mata seorang wanita biasanya lebih terbatas berbanding mata lelaki yang lebih liar. Sekiranya anda sedar seseorang wanita yang gemar memerhatikan tingkahlaku anda walaupun secara bersembunyi, ia mungkin menunjukkan perkara yang positif bahawa mereka mungkin berminat atau telah jatuh cinta terhadap diri anda. Ianya terpulang kepada anda untuk mengambil tindakan yang seterusnya.

Senyuman- Apabila hubungan mata telah dibuat, ia biasanya disusuli dengan senyuman. Ini mengukuhkan lagi bahawa mungkin wanita tersebut telah bersedia untuk mengenali anda dengan lebih lanjut. Selain daripada itu, tanda ini juga menunjukkan bahawa wanita tersebut bersedia sekiranya anda ingin memulakan perbualan.

Perbualan- Kebanyakan wanita masih berpegang terhadap kepercayaan bahawa lelaki yang perlu untuk memulakan perbualan terlebih dahulu dan bukannya mereka. Sekiranya wanita yang memulakan perbualan terlebih dahulu, ia adalah tanda yang kukuh bahawa mereka mungkin berminat terhadap diri anda. Memulakan perbualan adalah merupakan cara mudah untuk mengenali seseorang dengan lebih rapat.

Bahasa tubuh- Apabila anda telah memulakan perbualan tetapi wanita tersebut menunjukkan reaksi tubuh yang kurang selesa, ia bukan bermakna mereka tidak berminat terhadap diri anda. Berkemungkinan ia disebabkan oleh faktor gemuruh berhadapan dengan orang yang mereka telah memendam perasaan. Jangan terlalu awal membuat penilaian. Ambil masa untuk mengenali mereka dengan lebih rapat lagi.

19 tanda lelaki jatuh cinta

Anda sepatutnya mampu untuk mengesan sekiranya seseorang lelaki jatuh cinta dengan sedikit pemerhatian terhadap tingkahlaku mereka. Ia kerana mereka akan meninggalkan tanda yang ketara untuk meluahkan perasaan mereka walaupun tanpa kata-kata. Antara tanda-tanda sekiranya lelaki jatuh cinta ialah……..

(1) Mereka senyum kepada anda. (terlalu banyak senyuman yang diberikan)
(2) Mereka gelak dengan lawak jenaka anda. (walaupun lawak yang anda sampaikan sebenarnya tidak lawak)
(3) Mereka pertahankan anda daripada orang lain.
(4) Mereka bertanyakan soalan mengenai kehidupan anda.
(5) Mereka merenung anda secara sembunyi.
(6) Mereka akan gagap apabila bercakap berhadapan dengan anda.
(7) Mereka gemar untuk menyebut nama anda.
(8) Mereka memanggil anda dengan nama gelaran yang manja.
(9) Mereka akan mengajak anda keluar.
(10) Mereka akan menelefon atau mesej anda setiap hari.
(11) Mereka akan berperwatakan lebih matang dan menghormati orang lain apabila anda berada dihadapan mereka.
(12) Mereka akan memuji penampilan anda.
(13) Apabila mereka berusaha melakukan lawak jenaka, reaksi anda adalah yang pertama mereka akan lihat.
(14) Mereka sentiasa berusaha untuk bersama dengan anda seperti didalam kumpulan, kelas atau sebagainya.
(15) Mereka bertanyakan rakan anda soalan mengenai diri anda.
(16) Mereka bertanyakan pandangan anda mengenai lelaki lain.
(17) Mereka meminta nasihat anda mengenai wanita lain.
(18) Mereka mengingati semua perkara mengenai diri anda.
(19) Mereka berjenaka untuk mengetahui status diri anda yang sebenar.

Friday, March 9, 2012

How To Avoid Jealousy in Relationships

The two of you are seated in a restaurant. She is looking like her usual sexy self and you marvel at the fact that you're with the hottest woman in the room. Everything is going great until a GQ model wannabe makes his way through the crowd and stops at your table. Your lady looks up and is smitten to see her former flame. As she introduces you to the gentleman, you try to maintain a smile while shaking hands.
They continue to exchange friendly words and you sit idly by while your blood boils to levels that may or may not result in his body being flung over to the dessert cart. In short, his presence is making you lose it.

sound familiar?
This scenario is one of millions that depicts jealousy; a human emotion we instinctively experience at some point or another. Just like with aggression and paranoia, jealousy can take on varying degrees of severity. The aforementioned scene could result in your either being totally at ease by the ex's presence, or getting into an all-out brawl with the guy while accusing your date of being a tramp for accomodating his greeting.

For some, jealousy is a real issue and if left untreated, can create a permanent wedge between you and your partner, while negatively affecting future relationships. Luckily, it can be controlled.

the source of jealousy
You may have acquired this behavior through past experiences with girlfriends. If you have already been cheated on, this may cause you to be more possessive and controlling of her for fear of repetition. Even if she's never given you any reason to doubt her, you become increasingly desperate to hold on to the relationship and want to avoid potentially hazardous situations at all costs.

Similarly, you may be the one who's been unfaithful in the past, and, in a shameful attempt to not have the tables turn on you, you want to ensure that you are the sole object of her desire.

But, for the most part, jealousy is a byproduct of one's own issues with self-confidence and self-esteem. You may feel that you're not good enough for her and that you're together by fluke. Most other guys seem better looking to you and you feel threatened by that.

why is jealousy dangerous?

Jealousy , for those who can't control it, is detrimental to a relationship because it eats away at the one thing that holds it together: Trust. Jealousy also takes away from your quality time together as it would undoubtedly lead to numerous fights whereby you only focus on each other's negative qualities. Furthermore, you end up spending the bulk of your day foolishly thinking up scenarios in which she may cheat on you. Before you know it, the greater part of your relationship will be spent on what could be happening rather than what is happening.

Jealousy will be harder to control as the relationship progresses, so if yours is reaching dangerously high levels, it's time to get help as soon as possible.

don't overreact
It's okay to feel jealous, as long as you can contain and channel it in a positive manner. Remember that trust is the foundation of any relationship. More importantly, show the lady the same respect you would want her to show you.

learn to control yourself

Here are five ways to get a grip on your Jealousy before you lose control:

1- Learn from past experiences
Look at how your behavior affected past relationships and use that to help you behave better. You may soon discover that these tantrums are the cause of your troubled love life. Realize that getting upset with her for no reason won't help your situation.
2- Deal with reality
Focus on what is really happening, not what you perceive to be happening because with time, you may end up having difficulty distinguishing fact from fiction. Don't let your imagination dictate the kind of person she really is.
3- Respect yourself
Increase your self esteem. Remind yourself that you're every bit as deserving as any other guys you feel threatened by
4- Get a third party's opinion
Ask a friend to take note of your behavior. It may help you to fully understand the extent of your actions by getting a neutral party's perspective.

5- Set some rules early on
Try establishing some general guidelines as to what is and isn't acceptable for you. This way, you'll have justification for outbursts when you are behaving improperly.

Envy Drains the Soul

Envy is usually an expression of insecurity. When we have low self-esteem, we'll always feel threatened by people who have more beauty, more status, more education, more charisma -- or better bikes! No one is immune to envy, and you probably know from experience that it can make you miserable. You may think the cure is more money, so you become consumed with increasing your earnings. The only problem is, once you get to that higher financial level, there's always a higher one. If you're motivated by envy, you're going to burn out because there's always a next level.

Life Is Not a Contest

Truth be told, you cannot be happy and envious at the same time. In fact, one of the greatest secrets to happiness in life is learning how to eliminate envy. Acknowledging the need to do so can be painful, but accepting material limits or advantages may lead to a change of values and a more spiritual and fulfilling way of life. The way you change envy is by changing your perspective. While you may not be able to completely change the feelings that cause envy, you can change your perspective and eliminate it from your life.

Stop comparing yourself to others. Satisfaction comes from doing your best. You don't have to imitate somebody else's lifestyle. Take an envy self-examination. Do you ever compare your life, your home, your husband, your kids -- even your lawn -- to other people's? This exam can reveal some surprises, and it just may inspire you to channel your energies into accomplishing worthwhile things.

Stay the Course

Of course you may be living in the middle of circumstances that make it hard to appreciate your uniqueness or find happiness or even basic safety. Be encouraged! Does that mean you'll never have a hard time handling the success of other people? Of course not! We all do from time to time. Human instinct makes us ask, "Why did he get a promotion when I didn't?" or "Why do they get to go to Europe on vacation and we have to pay for braces?" Realize that material things aren't going to last but relationships do. As your perspective begins to change, you'll see it really is possible to have a life without envy.

When jealousy creeps into your head try to remember you are listening to your small self. It is your big self that embraces your heart; therefore, you want to pay attention to your big self.

Your big self is the part of you that is kind, respectful, and loving of you. It is the part of you that you welcome and enjoy. It is the part of you that makes you whole.

Your big self is the qualified decision maker because it combines reason and emotion into a balanced mix. It is your big self that knows your self worth and that knows you deserve happiness and love. Your big self knows how to identify and live these good emotions.

Your little self is like a radio signal that you only listen to once in a while and you don't even enjoy. Why tune it in at all?

5 More Tips on How To Cope with Jealousy!

Tip 1: Identify The Root Cause
Knowing the cause for jealousy in any situation is the first step towards overcoming such negative emotions. Your own insecurities and unresolved feelings are often the reasons for feeling jealousy towards another. You will have to follow self-confidence building exercises and techniques to overcome self-esteem issues.
Tip 2: Take A Reality Check
If you are in a relationship and you think there's a threat to it from a third party, how sure are you about it? Could it just be the way you are seeing it? Perhaps, you are mistaken. Don't let your assumptions get in the way of a healthy relationship just because you feel jealous based on imagined problems.
Tip 3: Positive Thinking
Like in every situation where negative emotions get in the way of rational thinking, positive thinking helps. When jealousy burns, try thinking of better things. So, your colleague got a promotion and you feel envious because you think you deserved it better? Think of the bonus you got on Christmas last year or how fantastic it was to get that pay raise.
Tip 4: Seek Objective Opinions
Get the perspective of a neutral party. If you are often behaving jealously, they will tell you, but only if you ask in all honesty. Knowing is half way to resolving, so get someone else's opinion.
Tip 5: Find Reassurance
Communication is always the key to resolving issues, so always find reassurance from people around you, if you feel like you are going overboard with jealousy. The best way to seek help is by talking about whatever that's bothering you and causing the problems.
Jealousy is generally the result of deeply embedded long-term issues, such as anger, anxiety, frustration and inadequacy. An inferiority complex or low self-esteem will make jealousy a front to vent out its wrath, so focus on eliminating all negative

Thursday, March 8, 2012

Syarat Untuk Bahagia

Untuk bertemu dengan orang yang tepat, kamu harus memainkan peranan yang penting juga. Ini kerana sedikit sebanyak sikap kamu mempengaruhi hubungan yang dijalin. Jadi berikut adalah empat syarat penting yang harus ada dalam diri kamu andai ingin cinta berakhir bahagia….

1. Cintailah Diri Sendiri Sebelum Kamu Mencintai Orang Lain
Kebanyakan dari kamu apabila bercinta sanggup mengetepikan kemahuan, keinginan serta keperluan diri sendiri demi insan yang bergelar kekasih. Inilah kesilapan paling besar. Andai kamu sendiri tidak belajar menyayangi diri sendiri bagaimana orang lain ingin menyayangi diri kamu. Jadi pastikan kamu sayang diri sendiri terlebih dahulu sebelum kamu ingin menyayangi orang lain.

2. Punya Pendirian Yang Tetap
Seorang yang punya pendirian akan tahu apa yang dia inginkan untuk diri dan tidak akan berubah mengikut cara orang lain biarpun orang yang di sayanginya. Inilah yang terbaik kerana apabila kamu tidak berpendirian, itulah yang menjadi punca hidup mudah dikongkong atau ditentukan oleh orang lain. Ini secara tidak langsung membuka ruang untuk orang mempermainkan hati kamu.

3. Bahagikan Hidup kamu Dengan Hal-hal Yang Lain
Paling sering berlaku, apabila kamu telah menyayangi seseorang sepenuh hidup kamu akan di habiskan untuk si dia sahaja. Segala hobi dan aktiviti kamu turut dihentikan demi untuk memberi perhatian pada si dia. Namun jangan lupa hidup ini bila kita hanya bergantung pada seseorang dan satu hal sahaja iaitu cinta, inilah punca utama yang boleh membuat kamu kecewa teramat sangat apabila hubungan yang dibina terputus di tengah jalan. Jadi belajarlah membahagikan hidup kamu dengan cinta, kerjaya, keluarga, hobi dan sebagainya. Percayalah kamu akan rasa hidup akan lebih lengkap dan bahagia bila bijak membahagikan segala-galanya dengan baik dan teratur.

4. Berkorban Biarlah Berpada-Pada
Ada yang sanggup bersusah payah dan menyakiti hati sendiri demi melihat orang yang disayangi bahagia. Tidak salah untuk berkorban namun berpada-padalah. Jangan terlalu meletakkan diri kamu serendah-rendahnya hingga sanggup biarkan diri sendiri merana semata-mata mahu menggembirakan orang lain. Hidup ini dalam hal apa pun perlu seimbang. Sekiranya si dia ingin gembira maka kamu juga ada hak untuk rasa sebegitu rupa.

Cemburu Tanda Sayang, Tapi Jangan Berlebihan

Dalam sesebuah perhubungan, tidak salah jika ada perasaan marah atau cemburu kerana ia sudah adat cuma jangan berlebihan.
Emosi marah tidak harus menguasai diri kerana ia hanya akan mendatangkan keretakan dalam hubungan.
Mengikut kajian pakar, hampir 80 peratus keretakan dalam perhubungan berpunca apabila perasaan marah dijadikan perasaan utama. Ini berlaku apabila setiap kali wujud krisis dalam hubungan, setiap pasangan akan mula berfikir untuk memutuskan hubungan dan mencari pengganti yang mungkin lebih memahami perasaan diri yang sebenarnya.

Tip Cinta

Kadangkala masalah kecil diperbesarkan sedangkan masalah itu boleh diselesaikan dengan berbincang antara satu sama lain. Tetapi apabila perasaan marah sudah menguasai diri dan hubungan berakhir, lazimnya ia berlaku dengan alasan tiada jodoh dan sefahaman.
Memang benar jodoh itu di tangan Tuhan tetapi kita berhak berusaha agar jodoh kekal bersama orang tersayang.
Tetapi jangan hanya sebelah pihak saja berusaha. Usaha mesti dilakukan kedua-dua pihak untuk mendapatkan hasil lebih memuaskan.
Satu lagi perasaan yang perlu diatasi adalah cemburu. Tidak salah untuk rasa cemburu tetapi biarlah berpada-pada. Memang benar cemburu tandanya sayang tetapi jangan melampaui batas.
Tidakkah rasa sia-sia hubungan yang dijalin sekian lama terputus begitu saja hanya disebabkan cemburu pada pasangan?
Ramai yang memperkatakan soal cemburu malah pelbagai cara untuk mengekang perasaan cemburu daripada terus menyelubungi hidup.
Terdapat dua langkah yang boleh diambil untuk mengelakkan perasaan cemburu mengawal hidup kita iaitu jujur dan setia.
Memang ada perkara yang tidak memungkinkan kita berterus terang tapi bagi mengelakkan pasangan memikirkan perkara yang bukan-bukan, lebih baik jujur dan berterus terang dengan pasangan bagi mengelakkan perselisihan faham berterusan.
Jika jujur pada pasangan, sudah pasti dia akan menaruh kepercayaan dan mengekalkan perhubungan itu hingga ke akhir hayat.
Kesetiaan juga memainkan peranan penting kerana jika kita sayangkan pasangan, sudah pasti kita juga akan setia padanya.
Jika sayangkan seseorang, sudah pasti kita tahu siapa yang ada di hati. Jadi, apabila sentiasa mengingati pasangan, amat mudah untuk kita mengelakkan diri daripada berlaku curang pada pasangan.
Cinta terasa indah apabila ke mana saja kita pergi, si dia sedia menemani tetapi terasa pahit apabila kita ternampak pasangan berjalan berdua-duaan bersama insan lain.
Apapun, jangan biarkan marah dan cemburu terlalu menguasai diri. Berikut sedikit panduan untuk membantu kita menjauhi rasa marah dan cemburu, sekali gus mengekalkan keindahan hubungan bersama si dia:

* Jangan sesekali memungkiri janji.
* Sentiasa jujur kepada si dia kerana wanita atau lelaki memang benci apabila ditipu.
* Beritahu si dia mengenai sesuatu perkara dengan tepat.
* Jika si dia dalam keadaan bermasalah, sentiasa menggembirakannya.
* Andai anda jujur, si dia akan setia kepada anda.
* Jangan terlalu mengongkong dirinya kerana dia juga inginkan kebebasan

Saturday, March 3, 2012

sorry to my followers

hey guys ..
i just wanna say sorry to all ..
sorry for make you waiting  for the next post ..
i'm having a lot of assignment to do ..
don't have a time to update my blog ..
lately i always busy because of the final exam will be coming soon ..

sorry again guys ..
this blog will be update after my final examination :)
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